Don't make it the air that you breathe

I was talking to my buddy this afternoon and I asked him, "How do you tell if a guy is in love with a girl?"

He described the state as "drunk" - drunk with love. Doing things that he doesn't normally do, like queueing for hello kitty, chatting over the phone till wee hours in the morning.

But of cos, this is all subjective, depending on the circumstances and several factors. Different people express their love in different ways.

We cannot always let our heart overtake our thoughts. It is good sometimes, but doing too much is not good. We got to think with our brain, and stay rational. Our - women's especially - emotions tend to blow things up when the matter is pretty simple and small. For intance, we are in an early stage of a relationship, we are in constant contact with each other. Once either one or both get busy, we get lesser time to contact. This might lead to a feeling of negligence. Cos a large amount of Oxytocin is produced when we are in love, and it gets addictive. So we get withdrawal symptoms when the addiction kicks in. That is when we start doing silly things to get attention. That is when our emotions overtake our rational minds.

What I am trying to say here is, don't take love as the air you breathe in, and dont depend on it for survival, cos with or without it, life still goes on. Life can still be great, there are still many other things out there that need your attention. Keep yourselves occupied, after all, it can keep you away from all those irrational thoughts.

If you know that your partner loves you, stick to it, believe it, don't doubt it. God does not send you a partner to stress you out. He send him/her to help you out, to help you grow. He wants you two to grow and learn together.

It might not be easy, when you have so much emotions running through your mind. So when you start having irrational thoughts, STOP!!! Think about red light.. picture that STOP!!! And slowly think things through, it might not be as bad as you think it is. As I mentioned, sometimes, our emotions magnifies the situation, till it's so LARGE that we cannot handle it. But it is not entirely true.

So remember..to think rationally..

P/S: This is adapted from the conversation between my buddy and me. I felt it is very meaningful. And I hope to spread this message across to as many readers as possible. =)